Valentine’s Day is for lovers. I guess. I don’t really know. My husband and I opted out of the manufactured holiday so long ago I can’t really speak to its virtues. When we were first dating we should have been all up in each other’s Valentines, because, you know, we were deep in the love. … More We just can’t even with Valentine’s Day. Instead, we pour some sugar on each other this everyday way.
February is about to hit us like a Mack truck, loves. I want to help us all get through by equipping us with the biggest weapon of mass compassion there is—LOVE. Need some help, a little nudge to reach in and pull some big, impactful love out of your quiver? I thought you might. So … More Daily tasks and tips to strengthen your marriage and love bigger, even through the hard days—a 28-day relationship building challenge.
Are you doing that thing again? Where you focus solely on the daunting distance you’ve left to travel. The granite-heavy workload you’ve still to muster. The labor-intensive recovery yet unfinished. Thus you forget to honor and celebrate just how far you’ve already come? The obstacles you’ve already surmounted?
Once my secret was told, she surprised me by saying, “Me too.” And then we wept together. … More Ending your too-long struggle with secrecy and shame: tell your hard story to break the heavy bonds of self-imposed silence and finally begin to heal fully.
I’m asked one question about surviving a spouse’s infidelity more than all the others combined: “How do you stop obsessing about HER?”