Welcome to a newish heart to heart series of posts meant for those who need someone to talk to about experiencing betrayal. I have permission to post this private message I received, along with my response. Together, the sender and I are hoping our collective words reach the hearts that need them.
Once in a while, someone asks me how Mr. Utter Imperfection feels about me writing and sharing our marriage story, especially his infidelity, so publicly. And I love that. I adore it when someone thinks of him, too. Because very few people wondered after my husband’s well-being like they did mine when our story first … More The surprising way my husband views me sharing our marriage story—especially his infidelity—with the whole world
I microblog (write and share in smaller snippets) over on Facebook and the other day, the Wizard of Zuck showed me this photo—wanting me to know it was my most commented on photo of 2016. Mmkayyyyyyyy??????? I’ll roll witcha, FB. Not sure it’ll be what you had in mind, though. Because this was back when … More “WTF is wrong with you, lady?” and other gruesome moments in the ER—an infidelity story for all struggling marriages.
Once upon a time, I expected my husband and my marriage to meet my every need, fill every void, soothe every fear, supply all my joy… do you see where I’m going with this? I’ve filed this version of insanity away in my, ‘what the hell was I thinking?’ folder. It’s a fatty.
I took my husband’s faithfulness for granted. Not in the tone of dereliction usually attributed to taking something for granted, but in the vein of; he promised never to seek comfort in the arms of another woman, so he won’t. Throughout the years, no matter our difficulties, his faithfulness was the one thing I was always … More From Eyes Wide Shut, To A Heart Wide Open; The Aftermath of Infidelity