Healing from trauma is always an inside job—one that takes a lot of help from the outside.

We have to fight for healing. The battle to recover from any kind of trauma is fought one breath, one minute, one half-step onward and upward at a time. While it’s true healing is always and only ever an inside job, we can’t do it without help from the outside. On that note, here are … More Healing from trauma is always an inside job—one that takes a lot of help from the outside.

A spouse’s confession of an affair is often heard like this—”Honey, I shrunk the self-confidence and sense of worth you once had!”

The messages in my inbox detailing the way people struggle to love themselves after being betrayed, flay my heart and summon the bile up from my gut. I alternately fume and lament, weep and rage on behalf of all who’ve been made to feel unworthy of a safe and protected love. All whose self-confidence has … More A spouse’s confession of an affair is often heard like this—”Honey, I shrunk the self-confidence and sense of worth you once had!”

She gets some grace, and he gets some grace, and they get some grace too! Sorry though, there’s just no grace left over for you.

Got grace? … More She gets some grace, and he gets some grace, and they get some grace too! Sorry though, there’s just no grace left over for you.

A Moment I’ll Never Get Back Made Me Stop Choosing to Miss What Matters Most in This Life

And how many of these priceless moments are we given? Not enough. I know that because these are the kind we want back. These are the minutes we long for. … More A Moment I’ll Never Get Back Made Me Stop Choosing to Miss What Matters Most in This Life

The Too-Hard Way I Learned to Fight Against a Dangerous Level of Loneliness in My Marriage

I don’t give advice very often. Because I don’t really have any but also because I don’t think anyone really wants any. I think that within our difficulties, we really just want to be heard and feel loved. But I do tell my story, in case hearing it will help you in yours. Because hearing … More The Too-Hard Way I Learned to Fight Against a Dangerous Level of Loneliness in My Marriage