Feeling irrevocably stuck? You’re likely forgetting to remember to stop and do the most essential step in healing from your trauma.

Are you doing that thing again?

Where you focus solely on the daunting distance you’ve left to travel.
The granite-heavy workload you’ve still to muster.
The labor-intensive recovery yet unfinished.
Thus you forget to honor and celebrate just how far you’ve already come?
The obstacles you’ve already surmounted?

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Stuck in an endless obsession over the other woman? You may be allowing her more relevance than she is due.

I’m asked one question about surviving a spouse’s infidelity more than all the others combined: “How do you stop obsessing about HER?”

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We are not the grave mistakes we make in our marriages, we are more so what we do right after.

I feel us slipping back into our old, poorly prioritized ways. While it’s cause for concern, it does not yet cause worry. We’ve been here before and we’ll likely be here again. Being in this disconnected state isn’t the problem, it’s what we do next that could be.

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He made the worst mistake of his life. But then he did this…

Nothing has ever broken my husband quite like breaking me.

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Why Attempting to Rebuild Your Marriage After an Affair is a Colossal Show of Courage

You won’t see it coming, the affair. It’ll blindside you, bring you to your knees, and leave you feeling like you’ll never recover from it. Getting up and moving forward, in whichever direction you choose, will be one of the hardest things you ever attempt to do. So incredibly hard, you’ll think it impossible. At least that’s how it was when it happened to me.

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