Not long ago, in the middle of a rough patch for him, Mr. Utter Imperfection told me he thinks of me as his therapist—and to that I thought, “Oh, hell to the no, nope, not in this life. We are officially off the rails, Sir.”
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That’s not a healthy expectation of a spouse nor a healthy role for a spouse to play.
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I think he gets that. And I think I get the sentiment he was trying to convey. I think it’s very close to what @atticuspoetry is so eloquently eluding to here.
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Help each other fly, loves. Lean heavily less and lend a lift more freely.
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Repost @atticuspoetry
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'Build Her Wings' #wings #atticus #poetry #fly #atticuspoetry pc @thequotethief
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It’s wild to miss a friend so much it takes your breath away at the same time you realize the friendship just didn’t work. Plain and simple.
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It doesn’t have to be anyone’s fault. It doesn’t mean either of you are faulty at friendship. It doesn’t mean you won’t find your way back to each other someday. Maybe.
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Timing plays a role in what does and doesn’t make a friendship work. The traumas in her life, the tragedies in yours—they weigh heavily on the human heart and alter what you have left inside yours to help shoulder the burdens of the other’s.
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Obligations, demands on your time, fear of confrontation, fear of condemnation, different ideas about what friendship entails, lopsided love or contribution and a million other factors can wedge in between you, creating divide.
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And none of that need mean anything more than sometimes it just is what it is. Or isn’t. And it’s normal to miss what once was while accepting what can no longer be.
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That’s just life, loves. And it works this way for all of us. So lift that chin, square those beautiful, solid shoulders and remember who you are. You are a child of God, created on purpose and for good reason. You have immense, immutable value. You are here to learn to love and be loved.
You will.
And you are.
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The fizzling of a few friendships can’t change any of that. In fact, the fadings are often what foster new beginnings. We can’t have one without the other, just like we can’t have love without longing.
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Chin up, shoulders back, full heart out on your sleeve where it belongs. And use every ounce of the pain of loss to learn to love both you and them bigger, better, and bolder than ever.
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Otherwise, why are we here?
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