Overcoming Infidelity

During the darkest days of my marriage, I read the book Love Warrior and a spark burst into flame inside me. In recognizing my own story inside someone else’s story, I found healing, the strength to pick myself up, roll up my sleeves, and commit to the hard labor it takes to recover from adultery.

I found my voice and began to tell my story. It’s a story not told very often. The taboo of adultery is one we feel all too tongue-tied about. It’s time for that to change. I’ll go first.

This page is both a runway and a landing zone for all the parts and pieces of the story of unfaithfulness, unwieldy pain and unyielding love in my marriage. The posts you’ll read here are meant to help pull you up and out of loneliness, you are NOT the only one, and back in to love.

Sharing our stories is our best weapon against loneliness. Our best kickstart to courage. Our best chance. Our best. ~ Jodie Utter

To follow along in a way that will make sense, I invite you to read the following posts in numerical order. My story isn’t finished though, the rest is yet unwritten. So be sure to check back for more.

  1. An Introduction
  2. Our Stories Are(n’t) For Everyone
  3. The One Piece of Advice we Rebuilt our Broken Marriage With
  4. Only the Lonely
  5. From Eyes Wide Shut, To A Heart Wide Open
  6. Pour Some Sugar On Me
  7. My Graduate Degree In Love: Overcoming An Affair
  8. What The Aftermath Of Infidelity And Forgiveness Looks Like
  9. The Surprising Way Back to Trust After an Affair
  10. Why I Chose to Stay After My Husband Was Unfaithful

  11. Therapy Saved My Marriage Because Vowing to Do Better Was Never Going to Be Enough
  12. So, Your Husband Cheated On You. But What Did He Do Next?
  13. Husband, Let’s Make Time For Us Before We Decide Not to Anymore
  14. Younger, Prettier, Willing to Send Nude Pics: She Was the Whole Clichéd Enchilada, But I Don’t Think About Her at All

  15. When You’re Spending Too Much Time and Money Shopping and Drinking, You Vow to Stop

  16. “WTF is wrong with you, lady?” and other gruesome moments in the ER—an infidelity story for all struggling marriages.
  17. To the Blindsided and Betrayed: You Will Heal, One Breath at a Time