Healing from trauma is always an inside job—one that takes a lot of help from the outside.

We have to fight for healing. The battle to recover from any kind of trauma is fought one breath, one minute, one half-step onward and upward at a time. While it’s true healing is always and only ever an inside job, we can’t do it without help from the outside. On that note, here are … More Healing from trauma is always an inside job—one that takes a lot of help from the outside.

And then we lived happily ever after, said no honest married couple ever. The new—more relatable—fairytale in town.

Marriage is. . . Just leave me alone! Please don’t leave me. You make me laugh and you fill me with sorrow. Would you just shut up? Talk to me, please. Marriage isn’t happily ever after, it’s. . .

The Too-Hard Way I Learned to Fight Against a Dangerous Level of Loneliness in My Marriage

I don’t give advice very often. Because I don’t really have any but also because I don’t think anyone really wants any. I think that within our difficulties, we really just want to be heard and feel loved. But I do tell my story, in case hearing it will help you in yours. Because hearing … More The Too-Hard Way I Learned to Fight Against a Dangerous Level of Loneliness in My Marriage

I’ve Been Let Down In My Marriage: All the Way Down

Are you between a rock and a hard marriage? Been there, my friend.

Who’s going to see the look in her eyes once she’s gone?

Just a girl and her dad and their early morning serious sides. Yesterday, we dropped her off at kindergarten and the look in her eyes clenched our hearts with its tiny fists and pleaded with us not to leave her there. Today, the look in her eyes keeps us at a distance and tells us … More Who’s going to see the look in her eyes once she’s gone?