Erik and I are twenty-five years married today and I find myself so damn proud of our accomplishment—not at all in spite of our story, how we nearly lost everything dear over nothing special, but specifically because of our struggle and our success to date in moving past it. On this date twenty-five years ago, … More I’m proud of my marriage, but not for reasons you might think
Welcome to a newish heart to heart series of posts meant for those who need someone to talk to about experiencing betrayal. I have permission to post this private message I received, along with my response. Together, the sender and I are hoping our collective words reach the hearts that need them.
A few words on the triggers and the plaguing thoughts, for when you can’t seem to move past them. . .
I recently read that an inequitable division of labor within the home is the third leading cause of divorce in our country. Oh, girl. Oh, guy. This does not surprise me. Nor does the fact that this one sentence I wrote seems to have resonated with more of you than anything else I’ve written to … More An inequitable division of labor within the home is a leading cause of divorce—it’s time to even the scales
When I was a teenager, I nearly died in a tent fire at a family reunion. The flames from an overturned old-school propane lantern erupted near the door and melted the zipper shut, sealing me and three other family members inside. Luckily, family members outside our burning tent were able to rip it apart and … More To my sister-in-arms who can barely breathe after the betrayal—your lungs will recover, your heart will heal.
Utter Imperfection 