A spouse’s confession of an affair is often heard like this—”Honey, I shrunk the self-confidence and sense of worth you once had!”

The messages in my inbox detailing the way people struggle to love themselves after being betrayed, flay my heart and summon the bile up from my gut. I alternately fume and lament, weep and rage on behalf of all who’ve been made to feel unworthy of a safe and protected love. All whose self-confidence has … More A spouse’s confession of an affair is often heard like this—”Honey, I shrunk the self-confidence and sense of worth you once had!”

What good is knowing how to accomplish a task if you never start? It’s more important to just begin than it is to know how to finish at the start.

When we don’t think we can do it—it’s because we haven’t yet done it. After two years of drinking to numb and spending to feel, I’m tapping out of this ping-pong pairing of self-soothing behaviors that really only serve to make everything worse. For a full year. At least. And I don’t yet know how … More What good is knowing how to accomplish a task if you never start? It’s more important to just begin than it is to know how to finish at the start.

Daily tasks and tips to strengthen your marriage and love bigger, even through the hard days—a 28-day relationship building challenge.

February is about to hit us like a Mack truck, loves. I want to help us all enjoy the next 28 days by equipping us with the biggest weapon of mass compassion there is—LOVE. Need some help? A little nudge to reach in and pull some big, impactful love from your quiver? I thought you … More Daily tasks and tips to strengthen your marriage and love bigger, even through the hard days—a 28-day relationship building challenge.

To Admit Your Regrets Or Not To; That Is The Question

Our personal regrets are powerful in how they work to shape us into the people we want to be. But our accomplishments are even more adept at molding us. I’ve got an old suitcase bulging at the seams with regret. I don’t lug its oppressive heft around with me on the regular, but I do … More To Admit Your Regrets Or Not To; That Is The Question

No Longer Sorry: A Long Overdue New Rally Cry For The Warrior In Each Of Us

What are we seemingly always so sorry for, exactly? That we aren’t measuring up to our own standards? If so, can we consider lowering our own bar until the need to say we’re sorry we are who we are fades into oblivion? … More No Longer Sorry: A Long Overdue New Rally Cry For The Warrior In Each Of Us