I’m proud of my marriage, but not for reasons you might think

Erik and I are twenty-five years married today and I find myself so damn proud of our accomplishment—not at all in spite of our story, how we nearly lost everything dear over nothing special, but specifically because of our struggle and our success to date in moving past it. On this date twenty-five years ago, … More I’m proud of my marriage, but not for reasons you might think

Will I ever know happiness again after infidelity?—Asked and answered, heart to heart.

Welcome to a newish heart to heart series of posts meant for those who need someone to talk to about experiencing betrayal. I have permission to post this private message I received, along with my response. Together, the sender and I are hoping our collective words reach the hearts that need them.

During my latest podcast interview, telling my story took an unexpected turn

It’s been a long time since I cried when telling my husband’s infidelity story, which is one way I’ve gauged my progress in healing. Thus, the choking sobs surprised me. But they also cordially invited me to show up to some pain points I still need to work through. And so—onward; via the routes of … More During my latest podcast interview, telling my story took an unexpected turn

Bitter is best defined as a sharp flavor, not a way to live—how life’s hurdles can make you better than ever, instead of bitter

A few words on the triggers and the plaguing thoughts, for when you can’t seem to move past them. . .

How to revive the marriage you’re both killing

My husband and I recently found ourselves on the brink of marriage failure. While clawing our way back to each, other we encountered the single best piece of marital advice we’ve ever heard — “Give each other your first and your best.” Actually, for us, it’s the only advice to ever ring true, right, and doable … More How to revive the marriage you’re both killing