I recently read that an inequitable division of labor within the home is the third leading cause of divorce in our country.
Oh, girl. Oh, guy. This does not surprise me. Nor does the fact that this one sentence I wrote seems to have resonated with more of you than anything else I’ve written to date.
“It’s not helping “her” when a husband pitches in around the house. Noticing on his own what needs doing and then doing it, without waiting to be asked, is helping himself. It’s helping the marriage to feel more like the partnership it is and less lonely for the spouse who stays home.”
It was hard to count all the heads that nodded at this nod to the inequitable division of labor within the home.
I felt the reverberation across the internet though and thus expanded my thoughts on the topic to include my and Mr. Utter Imperfection’s story of battling back from this insidious and hard to solve marital dysfunction that nearly did us in.
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“And then we lived happily ever after, said no honest married couple ever. The new—more relatable—fairytale in town.”