An inequitable division of labor within the home is a leading cause of divorce—it’s time to even the scales

I recently read that an inequitable division of labor within the home is the third leading cause of divorce in our country.

Oh, girl. Oh, guy. This does not surprise me. Nor does the fact that this one sentence I wrote seems to have resonated with more of you than anything else I’ve written to date.

“It’s not helping “her” when a husband pitches in around the house. Noticing on his own what needs doing and then doing it, without waiting to be asked, is helping himself. It’s helping the marriage to feel more like the partnership it is and less lonely for the spouse who stays home.”

It was hard to count all the heads that nodded at this nod to the inequitable division of labor within the home.

I felt the reverberation across the internet though and thus expanded my thoughts on the topic to include my and Mr. Utter Imperfection’s story of battling back from this insidious and hard to solve marital dysfunction that nearly did us in.

Click here to read my full piece on the hot-button issue of inequitable division of labor within the home, originally published on Her View From Home.

 

Inequitable division of labor within the home

 

If this story helped you to feel less alone and more at home in your own story, you might also like:

“And then we lived happily ever after, said no honest married couple ever. The new—more relatable—fairytale in town.”

Or:

“Why Doesn’t My Husband Read My Mind?!”

 

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One thought on “An inequitable division of labor within the home is a leading cause of divorce—it’s time to even the scales

  1. Totally, totally agree. Having to ask someone to do tasks (that clearly need to be done without having to ask) makes me feel like a mother instead of a wife. Nobody has to ask me to do the dirty dishes in the sink. I just do them because I can see them in the sink and obviously someone needs to do them!

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