I don’t give advice very often. Because I don’t really have any but also because I don’t think anyone really wants any. I think that within our difficulties, we really just want to be heard and feel loved.
But I do tell my story, in case hearing it will help you in yours. Because hearing the stories of others who had traveled down the same broken road I found myself on is what helped me move forward from infidelity when I wasn’t sure how.
I would break my unwritten rule and offer the following advice to myself though if I could. I would tell myself to insist on marriage counseling with my husband when we couldn’t mend what we’d broken on our own, before things get so much worse. I would implore myself not to take no for an answer from him. I would tell my then self not to give up and to keep fighting for counseling until he agreed to go. Please click here to read my story on Perfection Pending about why I wish I had fought harder against the dying of our marriage.